Grief & Loss

Grief is universal.  It is a normal reaction to a loss and can vary in intensity depending on the type of loss and context. Additionally, everyone experiences grief differently and at their own pace. Although grief is painful, it is the process of healing from a loss.

Grief is often experienced as waves of emotions, that can include hopelessness, disbelief, loneliness, and despair.  You may turn to your friends and family for support and find that they think you should “get over it”, or their support wanes over time but your pain persists. Therapy can be helpful for providing support and helping you work through intense feelings.

Grief is a normal response to any sort of loss - including a pet, relationship, job, or even your sense of self - and can lead to feelings of sadness, guilt, anger, and regret. Sometimes we know a loss is coming and begin to prepare for it in advance. This is called anticipatory grief and can be just as difficult and painful a time emotionally as the actual loss. An example of this might be caring for a family member with a terminal illness.

Healing from a loss is a process that takes time and has no set timeframe. In fact, grieving can be a cyclical process that seems to be getting better, and then something will trigger a new wave of grief. Over time, however, it is possible to move forward and eventually integrate the memory into one that lives on in your heart.  Grief can also create an opportunity for a new beginning and to make meaning of the loss.

Although there is no quick fix for grief, I can help you navigate the process and develop strategies for coping.  And in time, find hope and peace again.

Concerns related to grief and loss include:

• Death of a loved one

• Death of a pet

• Loss of a relationship

• Caring for someone with a terminal illness

• Preparing for or anticipating a significant loss

• A health condition that changes your self-perception or abilities

• Moving away from friends / support system

• Unexpected loss of a job

• Lost opportunity for the future you hoped for